Some of the most common reasons when it can be appropriate
to seek advice on parenting include the following:
A premature baby with special needs
A child with developmental disabilities and
A child with attachment problems
How to deal with new technology (e.g., cell
phone and internet)
How to talk with children about stressful events
(e.g., divorce, disaster, or terrorism)
Two parents are divided on parenting strategies
A child with oppositional and defiant behavior
Perhaps the most complicated and controversial issue that
clinicians must deal with is parenting.
It seems that most individuals (parents, children, and professionals
alike) have strong feelings about parenting practices because parenting taps
into very personal belief systems.
Talking about parenting can be like talking about one of the big belief
systems of race, religion, politics, or sex.
Personal opinions are strong and scientific data often get lost amidst
the strong feelings.
The major danger in our field is that we do not want to
blame parents for their children’s problems when they are not to blame. That can offend parents and lead to the wrong
Advice to parents can be as straightforward as explaining
normal development and providing reassurance that their children are behaving
normally. Or, behavior management strategies can be highly individualized because
every child is unique and every parent is unique. There is no one way to parent
correctly, and sometimes there are not even right and wrong ways. It is important to find a clinician who understands
the specific nature of the difficulties and comes up with a plan that is unique
for each situation.
For oppositional and defiant children, specific types of
treatment have been developed.
These include the Triple P Parenting program and Parent-Child
Interaction Therapy (PCIT)). These are
well-studied and highly-structured protocols.
On the Find A Provider page of the Kid Catch Directory,
you can use the Issues filter box to search for local experts on parenting. Clicking on this filter selection will return
results of clinicians who advertise themselves as working with this
problem. Kid Catch cannot guarantee that
clinicians who advertise themselves this way are truly expert.
- Updated January 2, 2020